I was so moved to come and comment when I read what you wrote about aging into a space where you actually see yourself! I dreaded aging at a certain point, when I moved from "40s" to "almost 50" (thanks to my son for phrasing it that way). But I realized that I finally felt free of the pressure to become something, that I have actual wisdom to share with the people in my life and I have the patience to wait until they're ready to hear it, and that I love the life I am living. I am so grateful that you allowed me to see the gift I got; when I had to reassess who I am and who I plan to be, I got to see myself completely and face the future with enthusiasm. Good luck. Your chosen career is a lot harder than mine, and I hope that you feel seen more often.
Janie, I’ve been such a fan of yours since y’all started SFH, and I’m sorry it took me so long to join the Substack. This is a magnificent introductory-to-me post! :) I can’t wait to read more and then watch your inevitable Burn It Down-inspired series executively produced by women who’ve Had Enough.
While I’m not an actor, I can identify with the notion of identifying false narratives and finding strength and heightened self-worth at this time of life. I think it’s a partial byproduct of menopause making us stronger, not weaker, and age in general. If our resting temperature reaches boiling several times a day, there’s not a lot of bs we will tolerate. I’m convinced it makes us stronger. (P.S. To all the hot flashers out there, if you’re struggling try acupuncture, and if you can find a specialized practitioner electroacupuncture can work wonders.)
i love this: "I was told all my life one day, as a woman, I would become “invisible.” Weirdly I feel the most visible to myself and able to notify others of the false narratives they impose on me because of ingrained attitudes they have trouble seeing past. Do the men in my life get to find a whole new empowered self after a certain age? I hope for them, they do."
I was so moved to come and comment when I read what you wrote about aging into a space where you actually see yourself! I dreaded aging at a certain point, when I moved from "40s" to "almost 50" (thanks to my son for phrasing it that way). But I realized that I finally felt free of the pressure to become something, that I have actual wisdom to share with the people in my life and I have the patience to wait until they're ready to hear it, and that I love the life I am living. I am so grateful that you allowed me to see the gift I got; when I had to reassess who I am and who I plan to be, I got to see myself completely and face the future with enthusiasm. Good luck. Your chosen career is a lot harder than mine, and I hope that you feel seen more often.
Thank you for this beautiful comment, I appreciate you reading and so thoughtfully sharing. Aging is a privilege but it’s still really trippy!!! 🥴
Janie, I’ve been such a fan of yours since y’all started SFH, and I’m sorry it took me so long to join the Substack. This is a magnificent introductory-to-me post! :) I can’t wait to read more and then watch your inevitable Burn It Down-inspired series executively produced by women who’ve Had Enough.
This is the absolute sweetest feedback!! Thank you for this kindness 🙏🏼🔥🤗
I love your writing. More more more!
You are too kind 🙏🏼 Thank you, that means so much from such a talent as you ❤️
Maybe the menopause is a metaphor, and Hollywood will emerge from this phase older, wiser, and more willing to give you a prestige HBO series.
From your lips to the goddess’s beautifully cosmetically pinned ears.
While I’m not an actor, I can identify with the notion of identifying false narratives and finding strength and heightened self-worth at this time of life. I think it’s a partial byproduct of menopause making us stronger, not weaker, and age in general. If our resting temperature reaches boiling several times a day, there’s not a lot of bs we will tolerate. I’m convinced it makes us stronger. (P.S. To all the hot flashers out there, if you’re struggling try acupuncture, and if you can find a specialized practitioner electroacupuncture can work wonders.)
And a cold plunge🤣
Spot on with this analysis of what’s happening in our broken industry. We will rise. I have to believe it.
And for the love of God I pray for in person auditions to return.
Thank you, Julie!!! Me too🙏🏻❤️
dear janie,
this is great!
i love this: "I was told all my life one day, as a woman, I would become “invisible.” Weirdly I feel the most visible to myself and able to notify others of the false narratives they impose on me because of ingrained attitudes they have trouble seeing past. Do the men in my life get to find a whole new empowered self after a certain age? I hope for them, they do."
thank you for sharing!
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myq
Wow. Thank you 🙇🏻♀️